Profanity is defined by Merriam-Webster as an offensive word or offensive language. It is also called bad language, strong language, coarse language, foul language, bad words, vulgar language, lewd language, swearing, cursing, or expletives. This use is a subset of a language's lexicon that is generally considered to be very impolite, rude or offensive. It can show a debasement of someone or something or show intense emotion. Profanity in this sense takes the form of words or verbal expression.
In its older, more literal sense, the term profanity refers to "offensive words or religious words, used in a way that shows you do not respect God or holy things," or behavior showing similar disrespect. Based off of this definition, it shouldn't be used towards kids and kids under no circumstances should use profanity.
The mental impact of using profanity is often times overlooked. My question to you is, is it productive? My take on using profanity is that it scares our youth, it motivates disrespect in our young adults, and it angers adults while it also entertains them as well. It's not appropriate in the work place. It's not appropriate in church. It's not appropriate in school. So why is it accepted in public, especially at a youth sporting event. Parents should be outraged when they over hear someone using profanity for all in attendance to hear.
The coach is using profanity, the fans are using profanity, but we wonder why our children use it. Let me tell you why. I gave you three situations where it's forbidden to use profanity; such as the workplace, church, and school. Children often use it because it's normal in their households and its standard conversation among their peers. How many parents do you think have given their child the definition of profanity? It may not stop it, but it's a good place to start for open dialogue. You see knowledge is power, if you use it. The more knowledge our children have, the more power of understanding what's accepted and what's not. This can be accomplished with consistent parent to child conversations.
What happen to respecting our elders, respecting adults in general and in public? It was a rule, that you do not use profanity around adults, now our youth have no discipline or respect for others or themselves. The solution is to explain the definition and explain how it affects those that over hear them cursing. But in doing this, it will cause us as parents, to assess why we curse in the same settings. How can we challenge our children to change, if we are not challenging ourselves to change?
I have heard people say, that it is freedom of speech and it's not that serious. But if that is the case, why does it have such a negative impact on society. Open dialogue will start the process of change in our households first, and then as our homes begin to change, we will see our communities change. Stay tune for my next blog on "The Board Meeting."
Don't allow the use of profanity from your child, because a learned behavior is being engrained in them that can possibly hinder them in their future.